I’m Not Trying to Look Younger—I’m Trying to Look Like Myself
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There is something funny that happens when a woman reaches a certain age.
People start giving her rules she never asked for.
Don’t wear your hair too long.
Don’t wear your skirts too short.
Don’t wear bright colors because they might draw attention.
Don’t wear too much jewelry.
Don’t wear anything too trendy.
And for heaven’s sake, don’t look like you are trying too hard.
But you also aren’t supposed to “let yourself go.”
Apparently, we are expected to land somewhere in the middle—visible enough to look put together, but not so visible that anyone thinks we still enjoy fashion.
Baby, that sounds exhausting.
At this point in my life, I am not trying to look younger. I am not trying to fool anybody into thinking I’m 40, 50, or even 60.
I am 68 years old.
I have earned every year, every lesson, every laugh line, and every gray hair on this head.
I’m not trying to turn back the clock.
I’m finally learning how to look like myself.
For Years, My Clothes Had a Job to Do
Before retirement, I spent seven years working in a funeral home.
My wardrobe had to be professional, respectful, dependable, and mostly black.
Black pants. Black tops. Black jackets. Comfortable shoes that could carry me through a long day. Nothing too loud. Nothing distracting. Nothing that made the clothes more important than the families I was there to help.
That wardrobe served its purpose.
But when I retired, I realized something: I had spent so many years dressing for the job that I wasn’t completely sure how I wanted to dress for myself.
There was no dress code anymore.
No office waiting for me.
No reason to reach automatically for another black blouse.
That sounds like freedom—and it was—but freedom can feel a little strange when you haven’t exercised it in a while.
I had to ask myself a question I hadn’t asked in years:
What do I actually like wearing?
Not what is considered appropriate for my age.
Not what makes me look smaller.
Not what somebody else thinks a retired woman should wear.
What makes me feel like me?
I Don’t Want to Dress Younger
When women over 60 talk about enjoying fashion, someone always seems to assume we are trying to look younger.
But those are two completely different things.
Trying a new outfit doesn’t mean I am pretending to be 25.
Wearing ankle boots doesn’t mean I am having an age crisis.
Stacking bracelets, wearing a long pendant necklace, carrying a fun purse, or adding a little pink to my hair doesn’t mean I am chasing youth.
It means I still have a personality.
I don’t want to dress like a younger version of myself. That woman was still trying to figure out who she was. She was raising children, building a career, managing responsibilities, surviving hard seasons, and worrying far too much about what other people thought.
I want to dress like the woman I am now.
She is softer in some places and stronger in others.
She values comfort, but she hasn’t given up on style.
She likes color.
She loves jewelry with a story.
She wants shoes she can actually walk in.
And she no longer believes that getting older means she has to slowly disappear into the background.
I’m Done Dressing to Make My Body Apologize
For years, many of us were taught that the main purpose of clothing was to make our bodies look different.
Hide your stomach.
Cover your arms.
Make your legs look longer.
Make your waist look smaller.
Wear dark colors because they are slimming.
Avoid prints because they make you look bigger.
Everything was about correcting, minimizing, disguising, and apologizing.
I’m tired of that conversation.
I am a curvy woman. My body has changed. Some things sit differently than they did 20 years ago, and I’m not going to pretend otherwise.
But I refuse to believe that the answer is to spend the rest of my life dressed like I’m trying not to be noticed.
Now I choose clothes based on how they feel and how they help me move through my day.
Does the fabric breathe?
Can I sit down comfortably?
Can I walk without adjusting something every five minutes?
Does the color make me happy?
Do I feel confident when I catch my reflection?
That matters more to me than whether an outfit makes me appear ten pounds smaller.
My Style Is Becoming More Like Me
My style today is somewhere between modern hippie, comfortable boho, and a woman who refuses to give up her favorite jeans.
I love a good maxi dress because it makes getting dressed easy. Add a denim jacket, comfortable wedges or sandals, a long necklace, and I’m done.
I love flowy blouses, graphic tees, wide-leg pants, kimonos, cardigans, dark jeans, and comfortable shoes that don’t punish me for leaving the house.
And I love jewelry.
Not just because it finishes an outfit, but because some of my jewelry carries pieces of my life with it.
I have rings that remind me of people I love. I have pieces that mark important chapters. I have bracelets and necklaces that make a simple outfit feel like mine.
That is the difference between wearing clothes and having personal style.
Personal style tells a story.
Mine says I have lived a little. I have loved deeply. I have lost people. I have started over. I have retired, reinvented myself, built new dreams, and decided I still have places to go.
That story deserves more than a beige sweater I don’t even like.
Comfort Is Not the Same as Giving Up
I used to think I had to choose between being comfortable and looking stylish.
I don’t believe that anymore.
Comfort does not mean wearing clothes that make you feel invisible.
It means choosing fabrics, shapes, and shoes that support the life you are actually living.
My clothes need to work for coffee on the patio, errands with BigDog, walking Luna, visiting family, filming a video, sitting at my computer, going out to dinner, and occasionally deciding that the grocery store deserves a cute outfit.
I don’t need a closet full of complicated clothes.
I need pieces that feel good, mix easily, and still have some personality.
A soft maxi dress can be comfortable.
A flowy blouse can be comfortable.
Dark jeans with stretch can be comfortable.
A lightweight kimono can be comfortable.
Supportive sandals can be comfortable.
You don’t have to choose between looking good and feeling good. At this age, we are allowed to insist on both.
| Piece | Best For | Comfort Level | Style Vibe |
|---|---|---|---|
| Maxi Dress | Errands, patio days | High | Effortless boho |
| Flowy Blouse | Layering, travel | High | Modern hippie |
| Stretch Dark Jeans | Dinner, everyday | Medium-High | Classic, versatile |
| Kimono Cardigan | Layering, cool evenings | High | Boho layered |
| Supportive Sandals | All-day walking | High | Practical chic |
The Pink Hair Taught Me Something
Adding pink to my hair might seem like a small thing, but it reminded me how easy it is to lose pieces of ourselves when we spend too much time worrying about being appropriate.
The pink was fun.
It made me smile.
It made my granddaughters smile.
And it gave me a little nudge that said, “There you are.”
Sometimes style isn’t about transforming yourself.
Sometimes it is about recognizing yourself again.
It might be pink hair for me.
For you, it might be red lipstick, a bold pair of glasses, cowboy boots, silver jewelry, a bright scarf, a leather jacket, or the floral dress you keep talking yourself out of buying.
There is usually one thing we love but hesitate to wear because we think it may be “too much.”
Too bright.
Too bold.
Too young.
Too noticeable.
But maybe it isn’t too much.
Maybe you have been making yourself too little.
Style After 60 Should Feel Like Freedom
I don’t believe women over 60 need another list of fashion rules.
We have had enough rules.
We need permission to pay attention to ourselves again.
Wear the dress.
Add the necklace.
Try the ankle boots.
Put on the bright color.
Keep the gray hair, dye it pink, cut it short, grow it long, or do whatever makes you recognize the woman in the mirror.
You are not required to dress younger.
You are not required to dress older.
You are allowed to dress like yourself.
And if you are still figuring out what that looks like, give yourself some grace. Personal style doesn’t have to arrive fully formed. It can grow with you.
Start with one piece that makes you happy.
Build an outfit around it.
Notice how you feel.
Then do it again.
I Have Nothing to Prove
I am not trying to prove that I can still “pull off” a certain outfit.
I am not trying to compete with younger women.
I am not trying to look like I have escaped aging.
Aging is not something I escaped.
It is something I was lucky enough to experience.
I simply want to walk into this next chapter feeling comfortable in my clothes and at home in myself.
That may mean a flowing dress one day and dark jeans the next.
It may mean layered necklaces, ankle boots, a graphic tee, or a little pink in my hair.
It may mean ignoring every rule that tells me to become quieter, safer, and less visible.
I’m not trying to look younger.
I’m trying to look like the woman I worked all these years to become.
And baby, she is finally ready to be seen.
Gigi’s Effortless Comfort Capsule
A Little Note From Gigi
Have you ever stopped wearing something you loved because you worried it wasn’t “age appropriate”? I would love to know what you would wear if you stopped worrying about the rules.
Because you ain’t got time to wait, baby.
Wear the thing.
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